Today is a super special day in the SY household.
The beautiful and smart Miss SY turns 18. She’s managed to get through her first year of uni under-age and is very much hanging out to join her friends out and about at pubs and clubs.
That starts tonight with drinks at a hotel before us oldies are dismissed and the sweet young things continue on to a club that she can’t quite comprehend I actually used to go out to BACK IN THE DAY.
We shopped this week for a couple of outfit options – I will post the winning number on Instagram tonight – there is fancy chocolate cake ordered for afternoon tea and we’re off to have our hair and makeup sorted this afternoon.
I’m very grateful that she still wants to do these things with me. I guess I must have done something right in this gig they call parenting.
Speaking of which, I wish I could march Miss SY down to Greens Senator Larissa Waters’ office.
In case you missed it, Ms Waters has called for an end to gendered marketing of children’s toys. She’s backed Play Unlimited’s No Gender December campaign that calls on parents to boycott presents that reinforce gender stereotypes.
Larissa, let me tell you what a load of absolute rubbish this notion is.
Exhibit A: Myself. My late mother was a poster child for No Gender All Year (forget about this just December business) back in the 1970s. The more I yearned for a Barbie doll or Baby Alive, the more Tonka Trunks I received. This would have been FABULOUS if my brothers had got the dolls but, no, they got trucks too and were very happy to then receive mine as part of their collection. If only Mum could see me now … surrounded by shoes, bags, accessories … and writing about them every day.
Exhibit B: Miss SY. Sixteen years ago – on her second birthday – Miss SY received the first of MANY Barbie dolls. At one time we had the whole campervan-and-Ken kit and caboodle. Guess what? She hardly ever played with them. She wanted them, yes, but once in her room they were barely touched.
Yes, Larissa, kids will figure it all out for themselves. They will play with whatever toys they want to play with and they’ll move on when they’re ready.
What toys they play with won’t turn kids into anything untoward or mould their adult behaviour … unless, of course, you’re me and really have never gotten over the lack of Barbies in your life and now have two sitting on the shelf in your office ;).
Moving right along … it’s also the last day of school for Master SY.
I’m incredibly proud of him too. He took to his new school at the start of the year with much courage and has gone on to have a fantastic year, making new and most proabably lifelong friends.
I caught up briefly at lunch yesterday with some of those friends’ mums – I’m incredibly grateful for my new friendships. These women have been my support group this year as I’ve settled in to living in Brisbane as well as travelling so much with the launch of my book. I couldn’t have done it without them.
Speaking of the book, last Friday night was my last book event of the year. It was the 22nd speaking event for me since my book hit the stores at the end of July.
Yes. I. Am. Tired.
Tired but extremely happy and grateful for the opportunity.
I’ve loved meeting so, so many SY readers across Australia and I’ve loved that I’ve been able to support and create awareness for Dress for Success (I’ve also raised almost $3000 for Dress for Success Brisbane from my book events).
I’m extremely happy and grateful that the SY community is one of support and friendliness. Thank-you for that.
It’s rare for me to receive a nasty comment on my blog but that happened late last week. I didn’t see it until a couple of days after it was posted (it was a fake name and email address of course) but it pee-ed me off that this judgement-free space was somehow tarnished.
How do people not have any manners? What prompts people to come into a space which they don’t normally read and cast judgement and attack me for my appearance?
Massive unhappiness with their current life, I suspect.
I sincerely hope they realise that happiness comes from within. No-one can make another happy. You have to actually want to be happy and makes changes to your life to make that happen.
I also suspect that such anonymous cowards have never had anything tragic happen in their life – so they lack any kind of perspective.
How’s this for perspective …
Last week a woman I went to school with sadly passed away, one of my oldest friends continues to care for her sick parents after a cancer diagnosis four months ago, another friend has found out there is nothing more that doctors can do to help her dad who is also sick with cancer, another friend’s father had a massive operation this week that came after the discovery of tumours in his body.
Sadly, I have perspective. That same mum who banned the Barbie from my life never got to meet my beautiful daughter. Miss SY was born almost a year after she and my step-dad accidentally drowned on a tramping holiday in New Zealand.
She would have been incredibly proud. As am I.
Brooke from The Blonde Ambition has some great tips for what to wear on a date.
Kim-Marie and Rachel from Kimba Likes and Redcliffe Style are continuing their fashion challenge on Instagram – now it’s all about #summerstyle. Join in and don’t forget to add my #everydaystyle as well.
Sonia Styling has enlisted the help of Lucy from She Shopped to give us pertinent tips for the festive season (and any time of year) on how to fit it all in without the overwhelm.
Vanessa from Style and Shenanigans got me excited with her post about gold accessories. Be still my beating (bowerbird) heart.
Bev from Iris May Style shows the power of good shapewear. Love this slip from Bella Bodies.
I hope you enjoy your weekend to the fullest. I’ll be going with Mr SY to his office Christmas party, spending time at a city hotel and spa with that old girlfriend I mentioned above and ending the weekend with some Christmas shopping and carols in the park.
‘Tis the season and all that.
So, tell me what you think about the gender-toy-debate. What are you up to this weekend?