Having a bad hair day? I wish

Kristyn @ Mummy KBeauty 18 Comments

Editor’s note: I’ve had issues with hair loss for many years now.  It comes and goes as part of my auto-immune thyroid disease.  I’m one of the lucky ones, though.  I’ve got a lot of the stuff to start with.  And it grows back.  I just have to get creative with a few tufts here and there when it’s in the short, sprouting phase.  When Kristyn at MummyK* contacted me about posting here about her hair loss experience, I jumped at the chance.  Hair loss is not just a male issue.  Kristyn would love some help or answers.  Read on for her story and be grateful if you got to run a brush through your hair this morning as you ran out the door.


Having a bad hair day? Thank your stars for that!

For several years now I’ve wished I could have a bad hair day again. Why? Because that would mean I actually have hair to have a bad hair day with.

This hairy issue is very much out in the public when it comes to men. You see Shane Warne commercial after commercial promoting his hair restoration company. But for women, this is a very silent and embarrassing problem.

What would women be without hair?

Bad Hair Day. Photo: catheroo (cat edens), Flickr

Bad Hair Day. Photo: catheroo (cat edens), Flickr

I can tell you about everything I’ve learned so far but there is nothing I know that you can’t Google yourself. Well, most of it anyway.

Most information would tell you about hair loss problems for older women. Apparently, it is natural that we lose more hair as we are older. But I am not old. I am a 32 year-old woman who had dreams of dyeing her hair after giving birth. Now, I don’t have enough to bother paying for a salon dye. Every hair stylist I go to ends up baffled as to how to cut my hair so it looks like there’s more of it. Some even want to sell me their own hair growth pills.

I smirk at shampoo commercials because it is trivial. Yes I would love to have frizzy hair. Yes, I would welcome split ends. Yes, I would love to find that perfect curling/straightening iron for me. I would love it all if only I had enough hair to have a problem with.

An alternative is shaving my head, or cutting it military short. Ruby Rose certainly looks good wearing it. But we all know there are only a couple of women who can pull that look off. I am not one of them. Even if I lose 15kg to be as thin as Ruby Rose, my face would still be the same shape. I would look like a trying hard transvestite.

Basically, my hairstyle options are limited. I can’t wear a headband because although I look good from the front, you’d be able to see my scalp from the back. I can only wear a ponytail, and a very deliberately styled ponytail at that. I can’t cut my hair short. I can’t sport a bob. I can’t curl my hair (Have you seen thin curly hair before? It’s bad).

I can dab as much volumiser as I can on it when I go out but in the end, I still need the ponytail to hide it. I am young, I am virile and I am running out of options. Fast.

I called for a free consultation to one of those popular hair centres and they told me to go see a trichologist first.

I went to a trichologist and all he told me was to use Minoxidil and that he doesn’t have answers on how to cure my problem. On the second visit, he said I have baby hairs growing. What would I do with baby hairs on my scalp?

I went to another hair centre and they told me the best option is to use a wig. They let me try on a hairpiece they already had and it did make a huge difference. But I opted for the laser treatment first. The problem was that the company was just starting its offices in Australia and I wasn’t really given the attention I’m supposed to get. I paid $2000 for the laser, DHT blocker and Minoxidil. They forgot my scalp cleanser and I still haven’t gotten it until today (I bought the set in 2010). I stopped taking the DHT blocker because my period stopped. I wasn’t sure what was causing it but I didn’t want to take the risk. The hair centre didn’t know if it had any connection.

I’ve been on the laser for I don’t know how long now and still no difference. I am losing hope. Very fast. The last thing I can do now is get my thyroid checked to make sure it’s functioning well. I am hoping it is something I can fix.

“Successfully treating women for hair loss problems requires careful review of their medical, nutritional, hormonal & lifestyle history undertaken in an organised & sequential way. Some specific baseline blood & SHP pathology (where appropriate) should be undertaken before deciding on a treatment regime. This will provide a clearer representation of what other areas are influencing the primary problem, & treating the cause of the condition rather than just the symptoms can then be undertaken,” said Tony Pearce RN.
Specialist Trichologist, National Trichology Services.

I certainly didn’t go through any of those reviews. Maybe I should’ve gone to another centre. But it’s too late now. I’ve already spent the money and I have nothing to spare for this. I feel blessed that my husband still loves me despite the fact that he didn’t get the usual Asian with thick black flowing hair (damn you Ziyi Zhang).

I’m trapped. I’m done. I might have to opt for the hairpiece. Is there a hair transplant out there for women? Is there a cure for this? One that doesn’t bankrupt me?

If you have any answers, I would be more than happy to hear them through here or [email protected]. I don’t think I’m the only one with this problem but I’m hoping someone else out there has found the answer. I am quite attached to my hair, so to speak. I’d really love to keep them for a long time. I already have bad teeth, I really don’t want to be a bald toothless housewife. Not until I’m 70 anyway.

*MummyK is a mother of one, wife of one, journalist/editor, photographer, mad knitter, wannabe seamstress, zombie movie lover and former bourbon drinker.  Check out her blog at www.mummyk.com and follow her tweets @themummyk

Comments 18

  1. To Mummy K & Readers – this is Anthony Pearce (Trichologist) – you have me tagged as ‘Tony Pearce’. Although this seems like an ‘old’ site now (2011), I have read through the comments & concerns of readers and this is what I’d like to advise:
    1. Hair loss in Women reflects internal disturbance or deficiency (Females are more prone to certain deficiencies & autoimmune health problems than are males).
    2. ‘What’ are the drivings factors which the hair is revealing should always be fully assessed BEFORE commencing any treatment/s.
    3. Topical treatments are most effective when you use in conjunction with treating any underlying disturbance found – isolated use is a ‘band-aid’ solution’ at best.
    4. I hope this assists any Woman reading this Blog.

  2. Hey MummyK. Thank you for the post. No promises, but here is what has worked for me. It is called Macafem (google it)and can be bought online. It took about a month for it to start to work. My hair hasn’t grown back, but as long as I take 3-4 pills a day, I don’ t lose more hair. As soon as I stop taking it, my hair starts falling out. It is natural.

    It also helped me with mood swings, so I think my hair loss was hormonal. Hope it works for you.


  3. Hi there all,

    Oh I feel for you!

    I had rapid hair loss about eighteen months ago, when I was 36. One day, my hair just began falling out, and in two weeks I had literally lost half of my hair, pretty much all over.
    I had been suffering from major estrogen problems, which meant I was looking at a hysterectomy. I was desperate to avoid one, as I was relatively young, I had a toddler and I did want another if we could. So I tried some alternative medicine, including a dr who prescribed me progesterone and DHEA supplements. It was fantastic – hadn’t felt that good in years – but apparently too much DHEA can cause hair loss, which is what happened to me.
    I think it would be worth getting a full hormone test, as well as the thyroid. After this happened to me, a number of women told me they had lost their hair because of an overload of testosterone (which can be made from too much DHEA, as in my case). Find a sympathetic GP – someone who will bulk bill the tests would be ideal! And get them to run everything hormone related.
    I wouldn’t say my hair has fully recovered, but it is 100 times better than at its worst. And yes, I ended up with the hysterectomy…

    Best of luck finding a solution. Fingers crossed X

  4. Hi Mummyk! Firstly thank you for your courage speak so openly and candidly about your hairloss experience. You’re right it’s not ‘out there’ and as widely accepted as male hairloss.

    Unfortunately female hairloss is often associated with illess, cancer, chemotherapy and other debilitating conditions.

    Alopecia affects 1-2% of Australians say 300 000ish and only a handful of these women are part of a spupport network which is so sad. I have had Alopecia since the age of 4 and now 32 also and feel so incredibly blessed to have my health albeit smooth and healthy lol!

    I have tried and tested many different treatments over 20 or so years and although I haven’t had any success (except for a small amount of regrowth from a not so legal or healthy source) I’m quite content and even happy with my beautiful bald body. I do wear wigs on occaision and must admit that in life I am quite relaxed and roll with the punches so to speak when it comes to my wigs – only the very best will do! So in turn, I started my own wig business. I sell undetectable Lace wigs worn the world over by celebrities such as Oprah, tyra, Beyonce, Lindsay and the like. Lace wigs are almost non existent in Australia and seeing a potential market Undercoverangels.net.au is here to help!

    Im a single Mum of 2 incredible children so I empathise with anyone struggling financially. My wigs are affordable, beautiful and best of all undetectable. I can make a wig in any style, colour, length even email a photo of something you’ve seen and I can match it for you. Wigs are no longer thick fuzzy curly mops ever so delicatley banancing on your scalp threatening to mary poppins its way off. The right wig can help your self esteem, confidence, and allover attitude. I would love to help you and any of you listening in blogworld with a little extra locklove. You can also find me on twitter @_coverangels and on facebook http://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/Undercover-Angels/155033497864526 much love and always support.

      1. Kristyn, I met Danielle today – of all days! She started telling me about her business and I told her about your blog post today. I can so voucher for her wig – I would not have had any idea. I also felt the hair – just as real hair feels … because it is real.

        1. Sewer thanks Nikki! I love them think of a hair wardrobe straight curly red brunette long short… Match your hair to your outfits lol just another accessory for the modern woman!

  5. It’s such a difficult thing to talk about isn’t it? I suffer from moderate hair loss due to PCOS and it’s hellish (not to mention the excess hair growth elsewhere). I can’t imagine how much you have suffered with losing more. In fact, just today I bought some “Bump It’s”, got them home and realised I might not have enough hair to um.. “bump”. If you find a solution, please let us know!

  6. I feel for you, I really do.

    I have not suffered from this extreme of hair loss, but since my teens I have suffered extreme (large and long lasting) alopecia patches at various stages – always when I am stressed. I have nightmares about these patches, so I can only empathise.


  7. This is one of those topics no-one really addresses hey. I guess because unless it happens to you or a loved one it just wouldn’t occur that women in the prime of their lives could suffer from it.

    My sister developed alopecia about 18 months after her first baby. She was advised there was nothing she could do about it. At it’s worst she had a perfect circle approx 7cm across near her crown. It was/is so shattering for her.

    She now has regrowth there, and we wonder if it’s because she’s pregnant or if it would have started regrowing anyway. Can only hope it doesn’t happen again, but the cause is likely hormonal so she may be dealing with it until the baby bearing/breastfeeding days are done.

    Pleased to see the issue being discussed publicly here!

  8. It’s so frustrating isn’t it, MummyK? I’ve not personally had to deal with hairloss, but I have a close friend with “stress induced alopecia” and whilst hers is expected to grow back when her life returns to normal, it’s not known for sure. She has an almost perfect circle, 5cm diameter, at the crown, of skin. She uses clip in hair pieces that cover part of it.
    I went with her to her appointments, but I’m sure I’m not telling you anything that you don’t already know when I say the recommendations for her were to gently massage rosemary oil in to the scalp at night before bed (either with fingers or a soft brush) then rinse it out in the morning.
    Thanks for your honesty in posting this, it’s going to be appreciated by a lot of silent women I’m sure.

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