Editor’s note: I’ve had issues with hair loss for many years now. It comes and goes as part of my auto-immune thyroid disease. I’m one of the lucky ones, though. I’ve got a lot of the stuff to start with. And it grows back. I just have to get creative with a few tufts here and there when it’s in the short, sprouting phase. When Kristyn at MummyK* contacted me about posting here about her hair loss experience, I jumped at the chance. Hair loss is not just a male issue. Kristyn would love some help or answers. Read on for her story and be grateful if you got to run a brush through your hair this morning as you ran out the door.
Having a bad hair day? Thank your stars for that!
For several years now I’ve wished I could have a bad hair day again. Why? Because that would mean I actually have hair to have a bad hair day with.
This hairy issue is very much out in the public when it comes to men. You see Shane Warne commercial after commercial promoting his hair restoration company. But for women, this is a very silent and embarrassing problem.
What would women be without hair?
I can tell you about everything I’ve learned so far but there is nothing I know that you can’t Google yourself. Well, most of it anyway.
Most information would tell you about hair loss problems for older women. Apparently, it is natural that we lose more hair as we are older. But I am not old. I am a 32 year-old woman who had dreams of dyeing her hair after giving birth. Now, I don’t have enough to bother paying for a salon dye. Every hair stylist I go to ends up baffled as to how to cut my hair so it looks like there’s more of it. Some even want to sell me their own hair growth pills.
I smirk at shampoo commercials because it is trivial. Yes I would love to have frizzy hair. Yes, I would welcome split ends. Yes, I would love to find that perfect curling/straightening iron for me. I would love it all if only I had enough hair to have a problem with.
An alternative is shaving my head, or cutting it military short. Ruby Rose certainly looks good wearing it. But we all know there are only a couple of women who can pull that look off. I am not one of them. Even if I lose 15kg to be as thin as Ruby Rose, my face would still be the same shape. I would look like a trying hard transvestite.
Basically, my hairstyle options are limited. I can’t wear a headband because although I look good from the front, you’d be able to see my scalp from the back. I can only wear a ponytail, and a very deliberately styled ponytail at that. I can’t cut my hair short. I can’t sport a bob. I can’t curl my hair (Have you seen thin curly hair before? It’s bad).
I can dab as much volumiser as I can on it when I go out but in the end, I still need the ponytail to hide it. I am young, I am virile and I am running out of options. Fast.
I called for a free consultation to one of those popular hair centres and they told me to go see a trichologist first.
I went to a trichologist and all he told me was to use Minoxidil and that he doesn’t have answers on how to cure my problem. On the second visit, he said I have baby hairs growing. What would I do with baby hairs on my scalp?
I went to another hair centre and they told me the best option is to use a wig. They let me try on a hairpiece they already had and it did make a huge difference. But I opted for the laser treatment first. The problem was that the company was just starting its offices in Australia and I wasn’t really given the attention I’m supposed to get. I paid $2000 for the laser, DHT blocker and Minoxidil. They forgot my scalp cleanser and I still haven’t gotten it until today (I bought the set in 2010). I stopped taking the DHT blocker because my period stopped. I wasn’t sure what was causing it but I didn’t want to take the risk. The hair centre didn’t know if it had any connection.
I’ve been on the laser for I don’t know how long now and still no difference. I am losing hope. Very fast. The last thing I can do now is get my thyroid checked to make sure it’s functioning well. I am hoping it is something I can fix.
“Successfully treating women for hair loss problems requires careful review of their medical, nutritional, hormonal & lifestyle history undertaken in an organised & sequential way. Some specific baseline blood & SHP pathology (where appropriate) should be undertaken before deciding on a treatment regime. This will provide a clearer representation of what other areas are influencing the primary problem, & treating the cause of the condition rather than just the symptoms can then be undertaken,” said Tony Pearce RN. Specialist Trichologist, National Trichology Services.
I certainly didn’t go through any of those reviews. Maybe I should’ve gone to another centre. But it’s too late now. I’ve already spent the money and I have nothing to spare for this. I feel blessed that my husband still loves me despite the fact that he didn’t get the usual Asian with thick black flowing hair (damn you Ziyi Zhang).
I’m trapped. I’m done. I might have to opt for the hairpiece. Is there a hair transplant out there for women? Is there a cure for this? One that doesn’t bankrupt me?
If you have any answers, I would be more than happy to hear them through here or [email protected] I don’t think I’m the only one with this problem but I’m hoping someone else out there has found the answer. I am quite attached to my hair, so to speak. I’d really love to keep them for a long time. I already have bad teeth, I really don’t want to be a bald toothless housewife. Not until I’m 70 anyway.
*MummyK is a mother of one, wife of one, journalist/editor, photographer, mad knitter, wannabe seamstress, zombie movie lover and former bourbon drinker. Check out her blog at www.mummyk.com and follow her tweets @themummyk