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I’ve just come back from spending six days in Bali with 10 beautiful women.
Beautiful women on the inside and out.
Beautiful women who know who they are.
Beautiful women who are not afraid to show who they are through the clothes and makeup they wear – and the way they style their hair.
Each woman looked and dressed differently from each other but what they all shared in common was the confidence that comes from knowing they very much looked the part for themselves – and the occasion.
The confidence didn’t come from spending hours and hours getting ready (although staying with that number of women in one place, it was a good job there were five bathrooms) - it came from within.
The collective glow as we all stepped out for the afternoon or evening may have been enhanced by shiny hair, illuminating foundation, a pop of lippy and fabulous accessories but all of that effort would have gone unnoticed except for the confidence factor.
Even if some of us weren’t always quite feeling it (hello Bali Belly), at any given time there were 10 other women at arms length ready, willing and able to dish out a completely unprompted compliment.
And, do you know what?
Each and every one of those women accepted the compliment. They didn’t brush it to one side, mumble and retort with a backhanded response.
No, they took it for what it was. And that, my friends, is a very good thing.
There’s an almighty feeling of goodness all round when compliments are flowing as freely as the lychee and ginger mojitos.
It’s impossible not to smile, to not feel like you’re wearing sky-high heels instead of your Havaianas.
So, if we know that giving and receiving compliments about the way we look makes for a whole lot of goodness in this world, why are women generally backward in coming forward to accept one?
Learning how to take a compliment about your looks is something I feel strongly about – even more so, seeing and experiencing the collective power of during my week in Bali. I thought I might share my tips on how to take a compliment.
1. Do make an effort to look and feel your best every day – not just for special occasions. Confidence starts with you and it is contagious when you start showing it. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time or money but it does take honouring who you are and what personality you’d like to project out on to the world.
2. Find that one thing about your appearance that no matter what you feel about the rest of you on any given day, that one thing helps you pass the confidence test. For me, that’s my hair. If I’m happy about the cut and colour and I’ve taken a little time to style it, then the rest of my day-to-day style falls into place.
3. Get in first. This is not an attempt to force someone into complimenting you back; more of a setting of the scene. Showing that you’re confident enough in yourself that you can boost someone else’s confidence is powerful. It’s as simple as making a comment about the necklace the woman is wearing. Watch how the person on the receiving end immediately feels more at ease and probably just a little bit taller on the inside. It will make you feel the same.
4. Don’t dismiss any compliments that come your way. This may seem like a no-brainer but how many of us are guilty of not taking a compliment on board, either looking away and mumbling a thank-you or immediately reflecting back the comment like a hot potato to the person giving it. By all means give back but do so after you’ve allowed the comment you received to sink in. Not only will you feel better but also you won’t make the person giving out the compliment feel like they were just out fishing for a compliment.
5. Practise a number of responses to compliments you regularly receive. Maybe the compliment given is tied up in the clothes you’re wearing. Instead of saying, “this old thing”, when someone comments on your frock, say “thank-you, I really love how I feel wearing this dress”.
My little mission to you is hopefully to inspire you to keep the compliment circle going.
There is no need to avoid taking pride in our appearance. It’s about being true to you.
When we are collectively doing that, the world will be a better place. I challenge you today to go out of your way to compliment others on how they look.
Are you board?
How do you react when someone makes a compliment about the way you look?
Schwarzkopf Australia has launched an exciting new website – its aim is to make us feel ok about taking the time to look and feel our best. Head on over to BE.YOU.TIFUL and share your beauty confession for a chance to win one of 10 beauty prizes each week … or just read the ones already there and be proud of who you are and the individuality you create, no matter how much or little effort it takes. You can also find more inspiration on the Schwarzkopf Australia Facebook page.
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