6 wardrobe essentials for the school run

Did you catch my post from yesterday … about the UK bloggers who blog about real fashion and what they wear on the school run? And how they were criticised for doing so?

Cray cray stuff.

Loved that you thought it was crazy stuff too.

Life’s too short for judging others and for some reason women are particularly skilled at this.

Styling You is a judgement-free zone. It’s a place you can come to and feel safe should you wish to explore your own style and get some tips from me or other readers.

I don’t proclaim to be the most stylish woman in the world. Far from it.

I have an inner dag who loves a good pyjama day sans makeup with hair hastily scraped back into a ponytail (a big reason why I’m not going back to short hair any time soon!).

But I also have an inner glamour girl. She likes to come out to play as well. Invite me to a fancy schmancy do and I’ll fancy it up like nobody’s business.

In between these two extremes is my typical every day. A day that involves working at home, the school run and ferrying a six-year-old to after-school activities. I need comfort but I want style as well. I don’t ask for much, do I?

As we head into winter (would you believe it was actually cold in Queensland yesterday morning? No eye rolling please), I thought I’d share my school run wardrobe essentials. The key pieces that you can pick up off the floor or from the back of your wardrobe door and head out the door with confidence.

School run autumn style: love this photo of a mum and daughter captured by photographer Mr Tommy Ton

School run autumn style: love this photo of a mum and daughter captured by photographer Mr Tommy Ton

These essentials are based around a casually elegant style that we owe a lot to French women. As Styling You reader Ms DB said on the blog yesterday, “this (criticism of women for wanting to look their best) would be a non-issue in France where looking good seems to be a national cultural duty”. Here here.

The autumn school run: French style

1. Jeans: To work with this look they should be skinny or slim leg jeans. What you style with them will be determined by your body shape but trust me, they can suit the majority of people. I’m a size 16 in jeans and won’t wear any other style.

2. T-shirt: If you’re petite then opt for a fitted round-neck tee. If you’re on the voluptuous side, then a slub or over-sized tee with a scoop or a v-neck will work best for you so it drapes over your front and back bottoms (I can say this as I’m in the possession of both).

3. Cardi: My petite sisters can opt for something small, cropped and fitted. I prefer a longer, flattering draped style.

4. Scarf: This is the key to lifting the whole look from a jeans and tee outfit. This is your chance to add colour, texture and interest. For ways to style your scarf, check out this post.

5. Ballet flats or loafers: You have two choices here – a neutral black, nude or tan – or a pop of colour or print (think leopard print). If you find that round-toe ballet flats stump your feet, choose a pointy toe or a loafer.

6. Sunglasses: If all I’ve had time for is a slap on of my Garnier BB Cream and a slick of lip gloss, then my sunnies will hide the bags under my eyes. Enough said.

Shopping suggestions

For my voluptuous sisters:

school run voluptuous shopping ideas

1. Sussan cardi $89.95 | 2. Seed top $79.95 | 3. Mimco sunglasses | 4. NYDJ jeggings at Birdsnest $199.99 | 5. Seed scarf $49.95 | 6. Witchery loafer $149.95

And for my petite lovelies:

school run petite outfit suggestions  1. Seed pants $99.95 | 2. Mix Apparel at Coles tee $15 | 3. Country Road cardi (was $99 now $74.25) | 4. Witchery scarf $49.95 | 5. Witchery sunglasses $69.95 | 6. Walnut shoes at Style Tread $119.95

What do you think? Is this a look similar to what you’re rocking on the school run? Or if you don’t have kids, is this a weekend look you can see yourself in?

  • http://www.spaceformagic.com/ Laura

    Love your blog and enjoying catching up on old posts. My daughter starts school next term and I’ve been scouting the internet looking for ideas for school run outfits. My sister thinks I’m a bit mad, but for me it’s about feeling good and making the most of this opportunity to meet new friends and get involved in my kids schooling. If I’m in my trackies I’m less likely to smile, look people in the eye or start up a conversation with someone new. I have quite the scarf collection so I am hunting down basics to showcase these scarfs. The first look is very much my cup of tea and I just placed my first order for some ballet flats through Style Tread. Love their website and really like the Walnut shoes, thanks for introducing me. Your blog is fantastic, love, love , love it!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki | Styling You

      Oh Laura, thanks so much and you’re right. If you’re feeling comfortable you’ll feel confident to reach out to new people. Welcome to this new exciting stage of your life x

  • Sally

    I felt like I really rocked it on my school run today, I must say. I wore black tights, a denim shirt that’s not quite a shirt dress (but covers my bootie) with nice jade green press buttons down the centre. I found this at a surf shop yesterday when shopping for my son’s new school bag. I never look in surf shops for myself anymore, so this was a surprise find on the sales rack! I had some bronzer on my cheeks and white lined water line for fresh eyes, and just to spesh up my ponytail, I did a little quiff and a couple of plaits at the side. Threw on some bangles and Emerson sandals – done! I really would have preferred some nice tan flats with this outfit, though. On the hunt for some! Great post Nikki! It’s great to feel successful in this one small feat to start the day, without a doubt.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Nice Sally … you’ve so nailed it. And doing the waterline of your eye … genius! One of my morning after tips ;)

  • Sapphire

    Thanks so much for this :) Its exactly what I was looking for! I’m a SAHM with a toddler & a Kindy kid. I LOVE having an excuse to get out of the trackies and get a bit dressed up for the school run. I’m not trying to impress anyone it’s just nice to feel girly :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Samantha-Fletcher/680106575 Samantha Fletcher

    Thank you – just found your blog! 

  • Sonya

    Also, not too bad to have as a ‘wardrobe’ for ‘mature age’ back to uni folk!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Absolutely!

  • Ms DB

    Oh Nikki you’ve made my day by referencing one of my comments! Quietly chuffed over here…

    One more comment about the ‘looking good’ issue (one I wasn’t quite brave enough to make the other day): I have three small female children. Actually not so small anymore – the oldest is now 10, the younger two are almost 8 years old. They are in no way ‘obsessed’ by fashion, and I have not (yet) had to install a timer on the bathroom to ensure we get out of the house on time. But they are aware that when we leave the house we are to be well dressed, in clothes appropriate to the climatic conditions and to the event we are going to. Their face is washed of any rogue breakfast food. Their hair is brushed and tied back. Socks should be matching (with any luck!)

    I do it, and I expect them to do it. Do you know where I learned it? Yes, from watching my mum. Do you know where she learned it? My grandma. It’s not genetic, passed down like our blue eyes or curly hair, but absorbed – ‘show don’t tell’ is far more effective a teaching method.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Hee Hee … wondered if you’d spot it!? And yes, you’re so right here. And I can report that with a 15-year-old daughter in the house there is a deadline!

  • Catherine

    Hi Nikki – How was Ita? Any suggestions for runners/casual sports shoes rather than loafers as I walk the kids to school. Catherine

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      I like my Converse sneakers – white or a neutral coloured pair. I like that my white ones are very much off white now and loved!

  • http://www.jeweldivas.com.au/ Jewel Divas Style

    I’d like to ask a question because I just don’t understand.

    Why is it so hard to shower and put clothes on in the morning?

    Getting up and having a shower is essentially a daily routine, I don’t have kids so I don’t know how hectic it can be, but surely you feel better having a shower and putting on clothes?

    Staying in pjs or a nightie all day when you’re sick and in bed I get, I’ve been there done that, but to get up and then stay in the same pjs you’ve just slept in all night, I don’t get.

    Don’t you want to feel alive and fresh and awake?

    I really don’t get it.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      It’s the kids thing – mornings can be super hectic as it’s not just you who may have to get out the door at a certain time.

  • Janelle

    Love this post Nikki! Considering my life pretty much revolves around kids and school runs its great to get some (realistic!) ideas and inspiration on how to look a little bit stylish whilst still comfy enough to rush around like a mad woman!! x

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Thanks Janelle – I know that mad woman feeling!

  • http://www.ladythinking.com/ Jackwafabwa @ Lady Thinking

    Oh hello Sussan cardi, how did I miss you when I was there on Saturday? Best I be popping back in store ASAP! I don’t need a school run to justify this purchase.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      No, you don’t Jacki … it’s a great casual piece!

  • http://twitter.com/DucksOnTheDam DucksontheDam

    Oh yes! I am so into these “looks”.  My school run in the upcoming winter months (I live 45 minutes from a big snow mountain so it gets pretty chilly) will involve part of this – usually a merino wool thermal type top, vest, scarf and either jeans and boots or skirt, leggings and boots.  That gets me through the whole winter.  Every year.  What I LOVE about my “uniform” is that pretty much every one of my mummy friends wears the same thing in some form or another.  Thankyou for your help…… now please help me find some jeans that flatter!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Yes, for cooler climes had the thermals, boots, coat and hat! I swear by NYDJ jeans for flattering my shape. Worth the extra $ as I wear them all winter.

      • http://twitter.com/DucksOnTheDam DucksontheDam

        Thankyou.  Will just have to track some down…..

  • Kelly

    I had such a fun day thanks to this post!  I dropped the kids off and headed for the train station and a much needed “me” day in the city.  I was planning a day of wandering, but after reading your post on the train and remembering I had a couple of vouchers in my wallet I was on a mission!  
    I am now the happy owner of a new pair of Levi’s Slim fit jeans and a new Sussan top.  They were giving out free scarves at Myer and I have my trusty Camper ballet flats already, so I will be ticking lots of boxes at drop off time tomorrow. :)

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      WooHoo … free scarves! Got to love that and love your accomplished mission!

  • Beck Berger

    Love love love !! That’s it really :) thank you

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Thanks Beck x

  • LISA Mckenzie

    Loving those looks you have here for the school or home run Nikki ,really nice choices of colours ,they are my everyday look and my weekend look as well depending on where I am going of course I may add some nice ponti pants another fave in my wardrobe next to my skinny jeans  and boots when it’s cold and the good thing about these key pieces is the layering aspect, as it’s freezing in the morning and night but warms up a bit in the middle of the day and you can take off your cardi and scarf and have a nice tee under.
    I went to Coles where they have mix apparel on Monday I was shocked my sister just had a hysterectomy last week and she said can you please take me to Coles and I said why do you want to go to Coles ????? cause they have the mix apparel range that’s why ,OK I said lets go and gee they have some lovely things ,I picked up a tee for $3( bargain) and it’s very nice I think I will have to find  one near me as I loved the pjs too,great range.
    I love the Mum and daughter pic ,The french are so chic ! 

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Lisa, the Mix Apparel range has a lot of gems – and the range changes every 6 weeks or so.

  • FoxInFlats

    Love those outfits and that you’ve catered for different sizes. 
    When my eldest started school last year I had no idea what to wear to school drop off. I consulted with a few ‘old hands’ and they shared their 7 (sometimes hilarious) style tips for the school run – hope this adds some value to the chats going on here! x http://www.foxinflats.com.au/2012/01/7-style-tips-for-the-school-run/ 

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Love that post, Andrea x

  • http://claireyhewitt.blogspot.com ClaireyHewitt

    I have that Sussan cardi from last year – in two colours, very well worn.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      It would be! Great basic piece.

  • Paula

    Gee I wish I could pull off those yellow jeans. Suspect I would look like two mushy bananas….

    Love the Walnut flats too.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      LOL … not in my size so didn’t get to have that mushy banana moment!

  • Le_third

    oh Nikki – looking for a pair of pony hair loafers that don’t hit three figures – any thought – thanks ever so much le xox

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Haven’t at the moment but will keep my eyes peeled.

  • le_third

    totally with you – I’m in my target jeans, grey skivey – it was really cold in bris vegas this morn – with small pin tucks at the neck and a ever so slight puff in the shoulder, red croc patent leather flats aka dianna ferrari and gold hoops, hair piled up … I did have a poncho on but I have warmed up :)  and I have a big pistachio green shopper kinda bag that was Big W for $9 – I love it with the red shoes – makes me feel festive :)  

    of everything I think the hoop earing is such a no brainer for all shaped women – go the hoop – best le

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Nice outfit – and glad you backed me up on it being cold in QLD today!! xx

  • Sasha

    Hi Nikki,  thanks for these ideas. I have a pre primary child so we have to go into the classroom and stay, not just drop and run..I am dying for the day I can do this and go to school in my trackies!  But my question was around scarves..I love them, and that whole draped Jessica Alba look but being an E/F cup boobs on topand size 10-12 elsewhere i feel they really draw attention to my chest (whoa look out school dads!) as the more fabric causes them to seem bigger and doesnt lie flat (if you know what I mean!).any ideas on how to fix this? Thanks!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      The drop and run is GOLD! So, with a larger bust, opt for a scarf with not as much fabric in it  - but one that is long – and just drape it around your neck to let just hang down. Or you can do the wrap once around your neck and hang with a long, thin scarf.

  • Livermore Katie

    Love this post! Could you do an option for those of us that live in hot climates and jeans aren’t an option due to the heat! that would be super helpful! thank you so  much!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Where do you live Katie? I did this one for summer the year before last http://www.stylingyou.com.au/2011/01/what-to-wear-on-the-first-day-of-school/

      • Katie

        Excellent I’ll have a read. I just recently moved from Sydney to Singapore. There are only so many maxi dresses I can wear at the moment! so its nice to change it up, thanks!!

  • Flickster

    This is my school run look almost every day. The cardi (or sometimes coloured short trench) is comfy, the scarf adds colour or much needed distraction from tummy area. 

    I love your work Nikki. I read your posts about dressing for school run and I honestly feel that I need to get dressed nicely to start my day. i have simple pleasures in life these days, and if I look at myself before I leave and feel like I look OK/good, that helps me. One of my (surprisingly) very good friends  was criticising “those mothers” that re apply their lippy and make sure their shoes match the outfit (that is me by the way, I always have lip gloss and powder in the car for Pm pick up). I felt a rush of guilt and shame that I was being vain.So, thanks for re confirming what my inner self already knew, it is ok to make an effort. PS. I found some awesome scarves($3 each)  and 2 great bags (all leather $5 and $10!) yesterday at the Salvos. Am feeling very thrifty and chuffed with myself! 

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Oh, good scores! And don’t feel shame at all – it’s up to YOU what you add on to make YOU feel good – it’s not about others.

  • http://www.facebook.com/GoddessMel1974 Melanie Lindner

    Damn, those lovely Seed pants only go up to size 14 :(   I wonder if I can find yellow elsewhere… need at least a 16 for my voluptuous bits :)   Might have to stick with my cobalt Emerson’s instead.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      I know Melanie … they didn’t fit me. Check online at somewhere like ASOS for other yellow options. Cobalt is a winner though – one of my faves!

  • Karen

    Love this post! I need to invest in some scarves this winter. Plus saw some very nice neutral grosby loafers in the big w catalogue this week. Hopefully they look as nice in real life as they do in the pics so I can grab a pair.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      And Karen, I was just at Kmart picking up some housey stuff when I saw a fab range of scarves for $10 and under. Plenty of budget options for this look.

  • Rachel N

    Love, love, love Nikki!  I am a mum to four (9,7,2,1) and I make it one of my duties to enter the world feeling fab. I can’t face the day otherwise!  Sure, some days I don’t achieve it and I only manage to get my bigger kids to school but every morning I will TRY to put myself together. It makes the hugest difference to my state of mind. I’ve been putting in effort for a year now and I feel like a new person. It works for ‘me’ and I would never judge any other mum (surely there’s enough of that going around!).  Right, I’m off to buy the Seed top, CR cardi and Walnut flats. x

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Go rock that look Rachel! And I’m with you, it does make a difference to my outlook for the day.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=604406160 Ruth Hammond

    If you were inbetween the petite and voluptuous would you err on the side of voluptuous?  Size 12 bottoms and size 14 tops for me.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      With your top make sure it has a low scoop or a v-neck to balance out the bust. And the jeans style is the same, it’s just a matter of choosing a top and cardi length that flatters your shape the best. There are draped style cardis that are shorter, that might be the go!

  • Huwandnellie

    Hi Nikki,

    I also thought the article criticizing mummy bloggers nutso. I love what you guys do and I love how accessible this information is. Love your French style tips- low key but chic and affordable. Who can criticize that?!

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Just pass me a croissant and a coffee … oui oui!

  • Jodie aka mummaducka

    They look like pretty normal, stylish outfits to me! ones that are perfectly suitable for school runs, shopping, lunching and morning/ afternoon teas, and sports events. My feet get way too cold at this time of year so it is boots all the way unless its a fancy schmancy night out, and of course if they are my cowboy boots that influences my jeans/pants to be boot cut. Skinnies- unless tucked into knee high boots, and a LOOOng cardigan, just do not suit me and my big bum and hips. I am scarfing it up too.

    • Jodie aka mummaducka

      I’ve just got to say this. I have always considered the education of my children and the children I teach as a very, very serious business. It’s not like dropping them off at a friends. When I go to my kid’s school I want to present to the staff there as someone who means business when it comes to my kids and the way they and we as a family are perceived. (and I too have been called in to discuss behaviour issues – a long time ago, so have been on the other side)  Your first impressions and every day presentation count so very much in being taken seriously as someone who has it together and can help get/keep their kid together. Even if it is just walking them to or picking them up at the gate!

      • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

        Well said Jodie … I do like your style!

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  • Thea

    I’m so glad loafers are getting a look in again. They are such a great shoe style and who can’t adore tassels! The above styles are my work uniform (yes, I’m lucky), so it seems I have been doing the French school run look for years. However, now I’m trying to wear heels more. I figure that I only have a feel more heel raising years left in me before I risk breaking a hip, so I’d better make the most of them. And this is the year that I am determined to master the scarf. Wendyslookbook video is such a fantastic resource for 25 versions of scarf tying, but you need to have a big square scarf, not an oblong, to get the best effects. Keep on keeping it real, Nikki. You are an inspiration.

    • http://www.stylingyou.com.au/ Nikki Parkinson

      Thanks Thea … and it’s kind of my work from home uniform too. I bring out the heels if I’ve got a meeting or function to go to.